It’s the Holiday Season and we have family & friends to visit but there seems to be only one topic of conversation. Yes Vaxed or Unvaxed! Just another way to divide us and separate us from the one thing we all desire, LOVE.
Let love guide you through this holiday season by building strong boundaries now.
HOW CAN YOU STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF WHILE AT THE SAME TIME MAINTAINING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES?
With the holiday season in full swing, it’s time to make sure we are setting healthy boundaries for ourselves and our families.
What are Personal Boundaries?
Boundaries should be based on your values, or the things that are most important to you. Your boundaries are yours and yours alone. Many of your boundaries might align with those who are close to you, but others will be unique. Know your boundaries before entering a situation. This will make it less likely you’ll do something you’re not comfortable with.
- It can be a decision about what is acceptable or not acceptable.
- It is when you can say NO to others.
What to say:
- I’m not comfortable with this
- I can’t do that for you
- This is not acceptable
- Please don’t do that
- This doesn’t work for me
- I’m drawing the line at ———-
- Not at this time
- I’ve decided not to
- I don’t want to do that
What to do:
Use confident body language – Face the other person, make eye contact, and use a steady tone of voice at an appropriate volume. (Not too quiet, and not too loud).
Plan Ahead- Think about what you want to say, and how you will say it, before entering a difficult discussion. This can help you feel more confident about your position.
Be Respectful – Avoid yelling, using put-downs, or giving the silent treatment. It’s okay to be firm, but your message will be better received if you are respectful.
Compromise – When appropriate, listen and consider the needs of the other person. You never have to compromise, but give and take is part of any healthy relationship.